Divorce is Scary—Should You Do It Anyway?
JACKSON, Mississippi. When it comes to scary things a person can do in their lifetime, divorce is high on the list. No one gets into a marriage thinking it will end, but if you aren’t happy in your marriage, divorce could possibly be a step in the right direction. If you have been thinking about divorce, but find yourself fearing it, how do you know whether it’s the right step?
If you fear something, it’s important to think about how fear works. Fear often surrounds the unknown. According to Bustle, fear arises when we anticipate a loss. When we think about divorce, we may fear the loss of the relationship, but there are often other fears that often accompany divorce. Individuals with children might fear losing custody. Others might have fears about how their finances will look after they get divorced. Differentiating between the fear of losing a relationship that can be saved from the fears of the consequence of divorce can be tough. However, if you find yourself feeling more fearful about the consequences of divorce, like child custody, finances, and being alone, rather than the fear of losing your relationship with your ex, then this might be a sign your marriage is over. If you are still struggling with this, talking to a counselor can help you untangle your feelings.
It’s also important to remember that the more we avoid doing the thing we know we need to do, the greater our anxiety around that thing will be. The brain is a feedback loop. If you’ve been thinking about getting divorced for a year, or two years, or more, the longer you fail to go through with it, the more your brain will equate divorce with danger.
The reality is that the things that scare people about divorce the most are often quite manageable with the help of a good divorce lawyer. For example, the Law Office of Andrew Sorrentino, P.L.L.C. in Jackson, Mississippi can help you work out a child custody agreement that is in the best interests of your children. Our firm can also review your financial situation to help you understand your rights and options when dividing property, bank accounts, and debts. The legal and practical aspects of divorce can be managed, and a qualified divorce attorney can help you plan-ahead.
Taking small steps can also make a difference. You can make the appointment with the divorce lawyer. You can start having that tough conversations with your partner. Psychology Today notes that making a stressful decision means that there might be moments where you won’t be comfortable. Ultimately, the question everyone has to ask themselves is whether they are willing to choose comfort over living a full and brave life. Ultimately, the decision is highly personal. Some marriages can be saved, but if you have been thinking about divorce for some time, now might be the time to explore why.
The Law Office of Andrew Sorrentino, P.L.L.C. in Jackson, Mississippi offer qualified legal counsel to individuals who are considering divorce. Divorce might be one of the biggest decisions you might make in your life. Fortunately, you don’t have to navigate the process alone.
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